It is all about Choice. Abortion is a choice, Adoption is a choice and Parenting is a choice.
For a woman:
To abort is a choice to deal with any social, emotional, religious and physical problems that the procedure can cause. The emotional problems are generally dependent on the social, religious as well as conception circumstance and fetus health and can be non-existent in certain cases/countries/cultures. It is a choice not to be pregnant or have future repercussions/responsibilities of any kind and in some cases relieve emotional problems (pregnant by rapist/family or prospect of genetic problems being passed).
To adopt/relinquish rights is a choice to accept the temporary burden, accept temporary disruption of life, possible long term educational consequences, accept possible social repercussions but relinquish responsibility in the future and live with the future emotional problems (the lack of closure most closed case adoptions give – “Are they alright? Did they get hit by a car and die?” haunt mother’s who give their children up for adoption – and social/public stigma for being known/seen as nine months pregnant can cause emotional problems – especially if she is a teen mom that had to change schools).
To parent a child is a choice on accepting the physical burden, the financial burden, a decision to dedicate your time to raise a child and an alteration to your life to no longer be selfish/share one’s life for at least 18 years.
For a man:
To abort or adopt are almost the same in a man’s case. They both are a choice to not have any future repercussions/responsibilities or future alterations to lifestyle or finance. The only difference is adoption holds the choice to adhere to moral/religious ideals and abortion hold the choice of emotional closure.
To parent is the same as a woman’s case.
When these choices conflict then there is a problem. We must then decide who’s choices are more vaild. Physical, emotional or spiritual?
Since spiritual is a belief while emotional is quantifiable and physical is tangible the physical must trump the spiritual.
Letting a man force a pregnancy, even if you offer to take away her future burdens, is still against her physical choice first and foremost and then her emotional. His future physical desire does not trump her current physical choice.
Forcing her to abort is going against all three choices (physical, emotional, spiritual). Even if he is a victim of rape, he was fooled, or she stole his sperm her current physical choice trumps his current emotional state.
When a woman aborts she is going against his spiritual choice, which is a belief (her current physical choice trumps his spiritual and emotional choices and future physical desire).
Until science can allow for the woman to relenquish the pregnancy, physical part, of the whole issue when the woman isn’t ready, willing and able to go through with it then the whole idea of her just relenquishig her rights to the father (be a surrogate) is still forcing her to go against her physical choice.
However…
That choice to keep a baby when a man clearly doesn’t want one means you are Anti-Choice when it comes to a man’s rights unless you also hold to a legal abortion on the man’s part. To force fatherhood on a man is against his physical choice to not have to raise, visit or be financially responsible. Though a man should NOT have any rights to force a termination or a pregnancy he should also have the legal recourse to avoid the future physical problems/burden. Her future spiritual or emotional choice shouldn’t force him to go against his future physical choice either.